Whether you are a teen first exploring romantic relationships or if you are an older adult returning to the dating scene after divorce, anyone can be tricked into believing her new love interest is Prince/Princess Charming.
We can be drawn in by the charm, the romance, the looks & the physical attraction.
Underneath this veneer, however, is Prince/Princess Creepy. They are waiting to reveal their true nature.
If you learn to listen to your inner voice and know how to identify red flags, you can stop a relationship like this before it starts.
If you are already in a relationship, it can be validating and empowering to recognize the warning signs even if you didn’t notice them before.
It can help you understand when it’s time to end a relationship or take some steps to repair it.
So how can you tell them apart?
Uses grand romantic gestures which violate your boundaries – Like, showing up at your home or work unannounced
Wants to know where you are all the time for your “safety”
Sweeps you off your feet – takes the relationship really fast
Influences you to spend less time with friends or family
Says they don't want to live without you
Tries to influence how you look, what you wear, how you style your hair
Pressures you to be more affectionate or sexual in ways you are uncomfortable
Says inappropriate or mean things when “joking”
Uses physical size or actions to intimidate or control your actions
Does romantic things which don’t violate your boundaries – Like sending flowers or arranging special dates
Is interested in how your day was and what you were doing
Respects the natural pace of the relationship
Encourages you to maintain your current relationships with friends and family
Makes you feel important or special
Does not pressure you to look a certain way
Respects your sexual and physical boundaries
Is always kind and respectful towards you and others
Allows you complete freedom to do what you want
Please feel free to contact me if this blog hits home and you'd like some help figuring out how to apply this knowledge to your life and your choices.